Dear Senior Girl


Dear sweet Senior Girl,

Imagine we’re sitting down having coffee together like I did with my sweet friend Sarah (the girl in the pictures for this post).

Actually, this post was birthed from a coffee date with Sarah. Sarah is bright, determined, and full of dreams and goals, just like you! As we sipped our coffee that August day, Sarah asked me a very insightful question that made me sit back in my chair and wrinkle my forehead deep in thought.

“What advice do you have for me in my last year of school? Like things you are glad you did when you were a senior or things you wish you would have done differently?”

Here goes……as I remember back to my senior year and think about what I would tell all you sweet senior girls this year…….

Don’t Get Stressed.

Just calm down, darling. It’s really not as big of a deal as you think. In 5 years you will look back and not even remember those overwhelming papers you had to write or that class you thought you could never pass! (ok, nevermind, I still remember a little of my mannyyyy hours spent trying in vain to understand Algebra. But mostly it’s a distant painful memory- haha!) This is a great time in your life to learn to deal with the feelings of being overwhelmed and not able to do it all. You likely have family, friends, a big load of school work, and maybe a job on top of it all. It IS a lot to balance, but God won’t give you more than you can handle! Wake up every day and spend time with Him, then trust Him for that day. One day at a time, you WILL make it through!

Enjoy It!

This might seem like a strange one, but it’s like I told Sarah- you think you have responsibilities and perplexities and a full schedule now, but in a few years you will look back and be amazed at how much time and flexibility and how little responsibility you actually had! Really do enjoy the ride, my dear, because you will never be at this exact stage in life again.

Learn from Your Mother (or a Mentor)

This is something that I am so grateful for- learning from my mother during my senior year. I got to spend many hours working with my mother in the kitchen and garden, doing life together, and learning all manner of valuable skills from her. It’s a priceless season that I wouldn’t trade for the world! Friends are wonderful, and I recommend you have a handful of good ones, but you really need your mother’s (or another Godly lady’s) input in your life. Don’t think you can walk this road alone- mentors provide wisdom, good counsel, and balance where ya need it, and this is a time in your life when you need it very, very much. Make learning about Godly Womanhood an even higher priority than studying Algebra and Chemistry.

Learn Good Time Management

This is something I failed at BIG TIME as a senior. I look back and wish that I had spent my time more wisely! It really does matter: the Lord asks His children to “redeem the time, for the days are evil.” The time on this earth is short, and as an 18 year old it’s easy to feel like your whole life is ahead of you, but that’s not necessarily true. If this was your last year of life, would you have regrets? Now is the time to learn how to make wise use of the hours given you. Learn to set goals, make to-do lists, schedule your priorities, and say “no” to things (hint: this is a time in life when it’s tempting to do alllll the social things, but sometimes you have to say “no” to some good things to make room for the best.”) Pray over goals and priorities and learn to manage your time accordingly. Set your alarm, and get up and get started with your day! Go to bed at a reasonable time, develop good sleep habits, take care of your health, etc. Make time for your family, and make it a very high priority to serve others. If you are a Redeemed child of God, you are His Daughter first before a Senior. Remember that you are His ambassador, you are loved by Him, and He has a mission for you to fulfill on this earth, even during your senior year. Get out there are do it, girl! I’m cheering you on!

xoxo,

Allison

PS. Girls…..Senior or not- which one of these resonated with you? Let’s continue the conversation in the comment section- I can’t wait to hear from you!

PPS. Also, the pictures of this post are courtesy of the darling Sarah…you can find her on Instagram at @proverbs31fashion .

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19 Comments

  1. I felt like this post was just for me! I think the hardest one for me is also time management. I am a senior with a fairly light school load, but I am involved in volleyball and I have a part-time job. Plus I love being social when I have the opportunity! I have been learning lately that when I have time at home, I need to prioritize things and not waste time on the unnecessary things.
    Thanks for the post!!!

  2. Thanks for the encouragement! I’m not a Senior yet, but all 4 points are so encouraging and convicting with what I’m doing currently (Think Bible Bee cram season โ˜บ).
    Your blog has been such an encouragement to me!

  3. Time management is such a difficult, yet utterly vital skill to learn. I’m not in the USA but in my equivalent of senior year I was balancing a program of science and maths subjects, along side being a principle carer for a severely disabled parent – I’m certain that prayer and faith are the only reasons it didn’t break me!

    I’m now a teacher (I teach ages 11 to 18) and I advocate teaching time management from as early as possible, you can really tell those who are working at it even if they don’t always manage it.

    Your post is filled with excellent advice but emphasize one more thing: Ask for help when you need it. Be that in prayer or a priest/vicar/pastor for spiritual help, a parent/mentor/friend for emotional help or a tutor for academic help…needing help isn’t a failure and it takes strength to admit when you need support.

    Out of all the noise that makes up my memories of that time of my life, one piece of advice stays with me from when I went on a pilgrimage with school: Never miss a sunrise or a rainbow because you’re looking down. It was good advice, always look up and always give thanks.

    1. I love your advice and thoughts, Ann! Thanks for joining the conversation. Asking for help is something that’s not always easy to do, but it is powerful! I love that you pointed that out!!

  4. Allison, Thanks again for an encouraging post! As a twenty three year old the one that hit home was time management!! Satan really does want us to have a selfish view on life, and go easy on one’s self and not to do the hard things. Yet to live the adventure that God wants each of us to live we must be willing to deny ourselves. II Timothy 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
    What a blessing you are in my life!

  5. I loved this post and your advice! Being in my senior year, I really enjoyed reading this… I know that I need to start managing my time more wisely. I know I would feel much more accomplished at the end of the day if I was more intentional about spending my time on useful things. Thank-you for the encouragement! You are a blessing! <3

    1. You are so welcome, Brenley! You will find that using your time wisely will allow you to have more margin and not be so crammed/stressed with your school and work load. I’m cheerin’ for ya!!!!!

  6. Oh my! Thanks so much! The whole post resonated with me! I’m a 17-year-old home-schooler in my senior year but instead of doing a normal highschool curriculum I’m doing math alongside of pursuing a paralegal certificate through Oak Brook College of Law’s 1-year program with the intent of hopefully getting a career in that profession until/unless the Lord gives me a family. I’m also working part time and have at times worked two jobs and will be working two jobs again later (my summer and fall-through-spring jobs overlap) to pay for school (no debt for me! :). It keeps me up late and gets me up early, but I’ve been learning sooo much to just enjoy it and not get stressed about it! It’s hard not to, but sometimes I just need to slow down and remember that my rigid schedule is truly enjoyable and God has been teaching me soooo much through everything! (I’m going through an online conservative christian college! It’s so amazing and I don’t have to leave home for it! :D)
    And I’ve been learning to look up to my mom a lot. I come home from work, tell her all about it, tell her if I had a good day or not, ask her questions, and treasure every moment I have with her.
    My biggest problem is that my schedule takes up so much time, and I wish I could spend more time with my siblings. My first quarter got off to a messy start so I’ve been struggling to keep up. And then with being gone at work, my siblings miss me because they don’t spend much time with me. ): Once I start my next quarter I’ll get it all scheduled out properly so that I have more time with them. It’s hard because we’re such a tight-knit family (10 kids!)
    Thanks! This post was such a beautiful reminder! I was so stressed out today when I came home from work but I felt so much better when I read this. (:
    (By the way, I here the Bontrager Family Singers are coming to the west coast next year! Yay! Hoping to see my first Bontrager concert!)

    1. Good for you, Grace! Way to go with motivation and hard work. I know it is a struggle with working and being gone alot- I have the same balancing act going on, but I find that it really helps to try to spend quality time with the younger siblings the evenings I am home and as much as possible “unplug” from work and be fully present at home even if only for a few short hours!

  7. As a girl in her senior year of high school, I can tell you this was so very helpful!! Youโ€™re encouragement to not get stressed was needed muchly ๐Ÿ™‚ Understanding that this is a new season, and sometimes learning new things/taking on new challenges can be difficult, yet accepting the blessed assurance that God is totally and completely in control of each stage of my life and that Heโ€™s helping me learn is a beautiful thing. Also, I always appreciate the reminder to take it a day at a time, so thank you! The entire post was very insightful and encouraging ๐Ÿ™‚ writing is something God has gifted you with!

    1. Thanks for the feedback, Emmy! I am grateful for the opportunity to share from my heart, and I pray that you can make the most out of this year!

  8. I jumped when I saw the title to this post. It hit home in my life as a senior.
    The words you mentioned about spending time with your mom really opened my eyes. I can learn SO much from my mom and I really take things too lightly at times.
    I have a question, Allison. What kinda of sleeping schedule do you recommend?
    Thank you!
    God bless,
    Laura

    1. Hey Laura! I’m so glad to hear that the post resonated with you!! As far as a sleeping schedule, I think that depends greatly on the season of life and the individual. I definitely slept more in highschool than I do now, but my body was still developing and I had more time. But even with a very full schedule, I think it is super important to get adequate sleep- what your body needs to function best. This will not always be possible in every season of life, but it should be the goal! Does that make sense or should I expound more on that?

  9. Hello, Sweet Girl!! I am a 44 year old mama to my darling senior girl, and there is so much wisdom in this post. Obviously seeking Godly mentors and leaning on them, trusting in them, and learning from them is paramount, but time management is so huge. She is taking concurrent classes in addition to finishing up any remaining high school classes, continuing her classical dance training, leadership in our church youth group, National Honor Society, along with all…of..the…college…and…scholarship…applications. This provides for prime opportunities to teach her how to prioritize what is truly important and how to manage the rest.
    Thank you for your encouraging post today and for your constant and unwavering generosity in investing in the lives of young ladies.

    1. Thanks for your sweet comment, Lori! Sounds like your daughter is quite studious- that’s fantastic! I agree- I think more girls should focus on time management NOW when they’re in highs school. College, or working full time or whatever comes next is only going to be increasingly challenging!

  10. Wonderful thoughts! I think your very first point (don’t get stressed) is something I needed to hear more when I was in my senior year ๐Ÿ™‚

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