Thoughts on Family + Home

My head and heart have been full lately. One of the biggest things I’ve been pondering, studying, and praying about is FAMILY/HOME LIFE.

The photo above, by the way, was taken a few summers back, in the days when we were all-except Carson- still traveling together, and none of us kids were married. Times have changed, but only for the better as our family has expanded and grown, and new homes are being established as new limbs grow on the family tree.

This morning I pulled out a book that I have been slowly reading through. It’s one I have mentioned on here before- The Family by JR Miller (affiliate disclosure here).

I am currently reading the chapter, “The Children’s Part”. Here are a few truths that struck me deep (all words in italics are direct quotes from the book):

“You know what a true Christian home ought to be. It ought to be a place where LOVE RULES.  It ought to be bright, joyous, full of tenderness and affection, a place in which all are growing happier and holier each day. There should never be any discord, any wrangling, any angry words or bitter feelings.”

I ask you, sisters (gentlemen, if there are brothers/sons reading): Are you contributing all you could to this joyous home life?

Do you take an active part in making your family life filled with tenderness, affection, kindness?

Is your contribution to the home tending towards making it happier, holier, and brighter or do you add discordant notes, thoughtless words, and selfish feelings?

Consider this:

“The home, no matter how humble it is, how plain, how small- should be the dearest spot on earth to each member of the family. It should be made so happy a place, and so full of life…..”

Surely there is much, much more we could do to make it so.

May we each examine our hearts and go to the greatest lengths to grow in grace and love in the family life. Every sister, every brother plays a vital part. It is not the parents only who are responsible for the atmosphere of the home and the culture of the family.

“With the years of consciousness comes responsibility, and then every child helps either to make or to mar the home blessedness and the home joy.”

May we each do our utmost to contribute to the peaceful, joyous home atmosphere. May our hearts cultivate the tender thoughtfulness, the sweet loving attitudes that will nourish the tender tree of family life.

With love,

Allison

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13 Comments

  1. Wow! Thanks for the reminder. Your words (and those you shared) are convicting and inspiring.

    What good plans our Heavenly Father has for us, his children, as he changes our hearts, gives us a new lens to look at life through, and draws us closer to his heart!

  2. “Is your contribution to the home tending towards making it happier, holier, and brighter or do you add discordant notes, thoughtless words, and selfish feelings?”

    This question sent me back to my pre teen and early teenage years, times when I really struggled to manage my emotions and resolve conflict without making a less than ideal situation worse. A lot of time and effort (mine and my mum’s) were put into ensuring I had the skill set to avoid spewing discord and vitriol all over everywhere. Reflecting now, as an adult who truly appreciates those skills, your question has made me wonder whether adults in general invest enough time in teaching young people these skills.

    The importance of clear, heart centred communication where hurt has been caused – done in a manner where neither person is publicly embarrassed. The power of words and not to abuse them. The inexorable link between genuine contrition and forgiveness…and knowing when to seek help (Matthew 18 15-16 comes to mind).

    I’m sorry, I’ve rambled! I think this is one of the easiest things to get wrong because while home should be a haven and our family ought to see the best of us, all too often it’s where the worst ends up being dumped because we feel safest there…and then if we’re not careful we start to make excuses for our lack of discipline.

    1. Loved what you said…..”The importance of clear, heart centred communication where hurt has been caused – done in a manner where neither person is publicly embarrassed. The power of words and not to abuse them.”
      Amen!!

  3. Those quotes are great to contemplate — so much truth in them! Can I make a suggestion? 🙂 I’d love to read another post on practical ways for us as sisters to add more joy to our homes and nurture a peaceful, homey, godly atmosphere!

  4. Thank you for writing about family! It is such a heartwarming topic! How true that the family should be the dearest place on earth! And yet, it isn’t so much of the time. How sad and yet we can do things about it by starting in our own homes. Thank you for sharing about your family. You all have been blessings to my heart, knowing that my family am not alone in my stance for truth in such a dark world. Please consider talking of wise social media use. I struggle with it and I’d love to hear your thoughts! A sister in Christ, Faith

  5. That was absolutely beautiful! Sometimes I get so busy with other things I just come home and want to sleep. Lol! I need to work on having more joy towards my siblings, especially the older ones. I’ve only got one more year at home and I want to make it count! Love your sweet spirit Allison! Prayers always, Katie

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